The Learning's

Whoa! time's flying.

 Its end of April and my self discovering journey has some worthwhile results already.  No wonder people say I'm glowing these days ( Healthy self boasting is good ).

Its been a fulfilling month in every aspect. 

There's been so much learning in these few days that I have begun to look beyond my self obsessed dreams. Life's never easy for anybody. Everybody has their share of ups and down's but at the end all that matters is have you lived through them courageously or left them mid way just because things weren't going as planned. 

Right now, nothing in my life is going the way I want it to. Its taking a lot of effort to still stand and say I am going ahead with my plan. When everybody around you has a say on everything your doing, it takes a toll on you. And just when you need somebody to stand there with you and say don't worry, it'll be alright, you have nobody. Trust me, that's a boon. It teaches you to be independent and makes you realize that the journey has to be traveled alone. 

This verse is making complete sense now from' The Brook' by Alfred Lord Tennyson

' For men may come and men may go, But I go on forever. '

The learning's.

1. Do not expect. It is the most difficult thing to do. I have been sincerely trying to work on it and I can proudly say I am succeeding, however slow it may be.

2. Giving matters, not how the other person perceives it. An important someone made me realize that the very thought of giving someone something out of love or appreciation is good in itself. And also what you give matters not how much you spent on it or how it is going to be used. So, give and forget.

3. Patience is the key to happiness. Never rush into things, either you'll loose interest in something or you'll end up being depressed. The sentence holds good for relationships as well. 

4. Nobody knows what is going on in your mind. All the stupid melodramatic serials and movies show utter crap. Its best to be frank ( not on your face, there's a difference). 

5. Trust is the key to every relationship. 

6. There's always a full stop.

Apart from this, I am loosing all the baby fat. About time, I ll soon be old enough to drink officially.

And time to pack bags and go back to the city of Nizam's. HOME! 

Unstrewn random thoughts.

I made promises and broke them.

I said I'll never disturb and ended up doing that all the time.

I said I understood the situation. In reality I understood nothing.

I was expecting something out of everything.

I was trying to impress and ended up depressing everybody.

I through tantrums time and again.

I shared everything. I assumed too many things.

I pined to talk. And ended up being a satellite.

I might probably be at fault.

Or this might be just another passing phase.

 I can't just say anything at this juncture.

Every word I speak is hitting the wrong chord.


The journey is hard. And it goes on.

This might be just another write up.

But, who knows the truth? Who can read your mind?

I Go On.

Don't crib. Accept things. Move on.

I am at a place where there is ten hours of official power cut daily. About 15 days back, I was cribbing for a two hour power cut. Not that I am effected by any of these ( thanks to Michael Faraday ). But its insane that we realize the worth of what we have only after experiencing/ seeing what others don't have.

Everything runs on comparison. Its good, as far as the comparison is healthy and we learn from it. But, the problem starts when we don't do that. We see the dark side of it and create a chaos. And then we crib. 

On my self discovering journey, I tried figuring out things, that could possibly hinder growth of an individual and eventually the nation as a whole. And the answers I got are pretty simple but working on them would be a task. Nevertheless, it would only benefit us if we can inculcate a little of them slowly in our way of thinking.

Here they go, 
 
Cribbing is the biggest problem.

There's power shortage -- we crib
Somebody doesn't meet our expectations-- we crib
There's water stoppage for a few hours -- we crib
No auto/ bus-- We crib
If its hot/ cold/ rainy/ pleasant -- we crib

In short we crib for anything and everything. In fact we have taken it as our birth right. We would soon have RTC  ( Right to Crib ) act just like RTE and RTI. And then we would have bifurcations about who can crib how much and who have little less privilege to crib and so on...


We always crib with a whine and we don't stop it for a long time. Apart from wasting a lot of time, we also waste considerable amount of energy. Not that we could have done something that would have questioned the very existence of the working of human brain. But, not cribbing and accepting things would fasten up things. And also give some fodder to the brain, making use of it for better purposes than cribbing.

Half  the problems of the world could be solved if only we could stop cribbing and start moving.

The second big problem - Acceptance.

Why is acceptance a problem? Why can't we just say okay, this is how it is going to be and get on with our lives. Its simple, instead of debating about a problem we can always accept the problem and do something to solve it. If not solving it at least find an alternative to it so that it doesn't come in our way of things. Like for power cuts, we know nothing can be done to them other than fixing a generator or UPS. But, not everybody can own one. Instead of cribbing we can accept the fact and strategically plan out things.

A recent newspaper article highlighted the brighter side of power cuts. Read on. 


Making issue out of everything is the sole purpose of our existence.

The issue making business starts from small things and then goes on to larger unimportant stuff. For instance, India losing a cricket match is the biggest news on television. The issue is blown so much out of proportion that one feels as if we lost a war and now destruction of the country is inevitable. And then we of course have other important issues that needs to be discussed, like wardrobe malfunction, who's wearing what in who's party and why etc...

I am not opposing them, I am just trying to figure out why is it given so much of importance? A television channel should be a blend of every news, highlighting the important ones ( news that affects the nation as a whole ).

Cribbing eventually leads to making an issue of unimportant things. Its good to make an issue of things that affects the nation and needs to be addressed with immediate action. For instance, corruption, illegal stuff, murders, rapes, health hazards, inflation etc... have to be made an issue of to tackle them effectively and create an awareness. The rest can just be news that provides information.

Its about time we accept things and settle down. We cannot crib for everything. We either have to accept it or do something to change it.

Cribbing is not the solution to any problem. Accepting and moving on will help us in tackling problems if not offering a solution to it.


Time to start working. :)

Blogging on the move.

I am blogging from the train and from my BRAND NEW LAPTOP. Ahh! It feels so good to own one. 
This is the first time I am traveling alone. Its nice to be alone and try to figure out things by your own.

Independence in every way. :)

The train journey has been good so far, if the initial goof ups are not considered. I got into a different compartment and walked my way to the other end of the train through the connecting plates. All I can say is, this is only the beginning of my self discovering journey- SDJ  ( I am going alone to a serene place, has to be SDJ ). Apart from that, one of the co- Passenger's is playing Rockstar in my compartment. Couldn't have asked for a better-first-time-all-alone-train-journey.

I am already feeling the I am going to Tamil Nadu pangs, considering the fact that there are so many veshti mama's* and mookuthi mami's*. Identifying a tamilian is easy, believe me on that. Our looks are not deceptive. We are easy on eyes.

On the journey, hope I get answers for some unanswered questions. Its the need of the hour. 

On other random stuff,

I saw 3 ( the kolaveri movie ) with an old friend. And WOW! I loved the movie. Dhanush, I am your fan and Shruthi looks BEAUTIFUL. The concept is neat and the twist blew me away. On the flip side, it drags in parts.




* Veshti- A 5 meter long white cloth that is draped from the hip by men ( Man's version of drape on skirt ).
* Mookuti- A piece of jewellery worn on the nose after it is pierced. Mostly it is diamond studded.
* Mama/ Mami- Indian translation for Uncle/Aunt.